“Make sure you are listening to their needs and adjusting for their specific amount of anxiety,” Linden said.
Suppose she is shy about saying a vow in front of everyone. So you might say: Hey, I read your vows and they are so beautiful. The groom will love them and I know they will move everyone in the crowd too. Do you want to practice again before the aisle?
Don’t save your inspiring conversations for big stuff.
Skaggs said people often have more support and encouragement to the bigger challenges of life than to smaller challenges, such as taking a marathon or starting a therapy.
She said that at every moment, she should be a cheerleader for her loved ones. If your friends mention that they are giving a speech at work next week and will be excited but also somewhat anxious, send them a text message that will boost morale.
You might write: You will perform well in your speech. You are a great public speaker and you have been working lately. Send good resonance in your own way!
Small dynamics like this show that you care about your concerns and they may make as much sense as having a Pep conversation on a bigger issue, Skaggs said.
Inspiring conversations don’t have to include suggestions.
Suppose your friend calls and tells you that their partner has just broken up with them. They were crying, very depressed. What should you say?
Assessment of the situation. If they aren’t looking for solutions, your inspirational speech may be in the form of “encouraging and witnessing the challenges they are experiencing.” You might try to be an active listener and do some grounding exercises together.
Skaggs said, don’t feel the need to say “a revolutionary person who has never heard of before.” Sometimes it can be comforting just “remind them of what they already know is real”. ”
You might say: I know what you are going through is really hard and it’s painful now, but I’m here to serve you.
Keep it simple.
“Inspiring conversations aren’t necessarily formal speeches that you spend a lot of time and thinking,” Skaggs said.
It is absolutely OK to write down the words “Don’t give up!” Stick your hair and stick it to a desk of a colleague trying to complete a large project. Or send a text message saying, “You did a great job!” to your newly born mom friend.
When it comes to giving You yourself Remember, remember, “You don’t have to nail it to the bat right away.” “Give yourself the same grace, encouragement and forgiveness.”
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